Yes, Arousal Can Be Awakened

The anticipation of sex or the feeling of sexual arousal you get from this anticipation can be nurtured and awakened, even from a long slumber. There are steps you can take to bring back the passion and desire for sex, and the desire for your partner, to levels greater than before.

Let's examine the common psychological causes of low libido. Lack of sexual desire can be rooted in self-consciousness about our body, performance anxiety, lack of sleep, stress from work or financial challenges, obsessing over creating the perfect environment for sex or the perfect fantasy for you or your partner. Each of these conditions can interfere with sexual arousal, squelching our lust and robbing us of the heightened sexual arousal you get from mere anticipation. Sexual trauma or getting past the fear of rejection can also be obstacles to overcome. If you are experiencing difficulty with desire, it is okay to seek professional counseling. There are many professionals who specialize in this field.

What can you do to combat the lack of sexual arousal on a daily basis? Aside from the popular physical fix of the 'little blue pill' for men and perhaps the controversial new "O" Shot for women, there are a number of things you can do to stimulate your brain which is an important sexual organ.

-- Get enough sleep.

-- Get plenty of exercise. Not only will you like yourself better and be less likely to be self-conscious about how you look, but there is evidence that any form of exercise that gets your blood pumping also increases blood flow to the genitals--this will be arousing in itself.

-- Don't bring tense discussions or disagreements into the bedroom. Leave those in a jar by the door. You can pick them up later.

-- You must be able to set time aside to fantasize. This is difficult for some people but with practice, it works. Your fantasies can be very vanilla or very exotic. They are yours and you can choose to share them or keep them for yourself. As long as they are arousing to you, they are good for this exercise.

-- You must be able to communicate your wants, needs, and desires.

-- As someone in a relationship, you must be able to listen to your partner's wants, needs, and desires. You don't have to fulfill all of them, but you do need to listen.

Be a good listener. It is tempting to say... "Yeah, me too" or to chime in with some way to "fix" the situation. Don't! Just listen. Try a hug and say, 'I am sorry you are going through this'. You'd be surprised how this affection will translate into sexual desire later.

Be Engaged. Be actively interested in your partner by making time together to do arousing activities--By arousing, I mean fun, joyful, activities that awaken your senses -- a wide variety of choices abound. Whether you are walking arm-in-arm through the forest, running on a beach, playing golf, cooking a spicy meal together that you have never tried before or watching a movie while cuddling on the couch, be in the moment and take in all the sights, scents, and sounds around you.

Stay Connected. A phone call at lunch just to say, 'I miss you.' A sexy text message can prime you both for a steamy evening; A touch on the arm while laughing at jokes or even hand-holding while walking the dog, shows that you still care. The power of touch cannot be underestimated. The temperature in your relationship should increase exponentially and carry you through to an evening of bliss. If you still find yourself with a lack of desire, try initiating sex yourself, even if you are not usually the initiator. Use it or lose it is true for sexual desire. You need to stoke the flames to keep that fire burning.

Still feeling lackluster? Try massage first. Use sensual touch rather than sexual touch. You may find that putting in the time can yield sexy results. Be sure to check in with your partner to be sure they are feeling the same way before switching to sexual touch. Don't have an agenda, just enjoy the massage.

And three final ideas...
1. Greet Your Partner with a Kiss.
Hug and smooch immediately upon entering the door. This is something couples who have been together for a long time sometimes forget. Getting that hug at the end of the day makes your partner feel wanted and adored which helps relieve stress from a long day. It also releases Oxytocin in the brain which makes us feel bonded.

2. Read Sexy Novels Aloud Together.
Suggested reading: Nancy Friday's "My Secret Garden" and "Forbidden Flowers". Read aloud to each other in segments, then, talk about what you find arousing in what was just read. Reading together and discussing how you feel helps explore desire and develops understanding how to feel good about what you want and you'll both find it stimulating.

3. Surprise Your Partner and Show Your Gratitude.
Finally, try giving a new bottle of flavored lube with a love note, that says... "Remember to save room for dessert."

Article written by: Lori S Choi

Why Most Women Want Large Breasts

For most women, breast size is an important issue because it can have a great impact in their lives. Too small can be very frustrating and too big can be a burden but most women want large breasts that is why breast augmentation is such a common procedure now or breast enhancement treatments are very much sought by most women. Although there are women who are satisfied with their small breasts, many women still want their breasts to be bigger. So why women want large breasts?

Big breasts give women more confidence. Flat chested women are usually insecure about their flat chest and they envy women who have bigger breasts. When a woman is unhappy with her breast size, her self-esteem is greatly damaged and she becomes insecure and less confident of herself. But if a woman is satisfied with her looks and breast size, she becomes more confident and this renewed confidence gives her more positive outlook and more opportunities in the dating game. Big breasted women are more confident with their appearance and feel sexier. Women want large breasts to boost their confidence.

Large breasts enhance a woman's physical appearance. Some women feel that their body is not well-proportioned because their breasts are not big enough making them feel unhappy with their physical appearance. Women want large breasts to enhance their physical appearance. Most women love to groom themselves, they are naturally fashionable and they love clothes. One thing that frustrates them is that most clothes usually look good on women with big breasts. Flat chested women usually hate wearing bathing suits and have to consider their flat chest in choosing their clothing style. Women who are well-endowed do not have problems wearing bathing suits and sexy clothing with deep neckline because they look good and attractive in any clothes.

Bigger breasts make women feel more feminine. Breasts are always associated with women and a flat chest feels like their femininity is in question. Although there are flat-chested women who are very feminine and can carry themselves well, most small breasted women are being teased about their flat chest that resembles a man's chest. Most women want large breasts to feel more feminine.

If you are considering breast augmentation to enhance your breast size because it is a very common cosmetic procedure now, you must do your homework and know the pros and cons of surgery. You should know what you are getting yourself into before putting yourself under the knife. Surgery is an invasive method and it involves risks and complications. Natural breast enhancement treatment is also an option to avoid the risks of surgery.

Article written by: Gerry Restrivera

The History of Women’s Swimwear

As the term suggests, “women’s swimsuits” are garments worn by women for any water-sports activity such as swimming, beach or sun bathing, water skiing and diving. Beautiful models showing off their well-toned bodies that cling so very deliciously to designer swimsuits; they added glamour and oomph to any fashion magazine and therefore adding popularity to women’s swimwear. Swimwear parades become one of the main events in all the beauty pageants around the world including Miss World and Miss Universe contests.

In Roman times swimming happened in the nude and historical evidence points to the fact that people swam naked. While there are murals that prove bikini-like garments which covered women’s breasts and hip areas existed, it is clearly evident from some famous paintings that water-based activities occurred with naked swimmers. Today there is a law in the United Kingdom and most other countries banning entry of both men and women into any form of public water bath or swimming pool without decent bathing suits that cover the pertinent areas.

In the 18th century, bathing suits for women consisted of petticoats and jackets and they made with brown linen or flannel. These costumes were uncomfortable beside unflattering in appearance. In an effort to help the woman’s dignity, a culture reflecting the times, there were weights stitched to the hems to prevent the rising of the gowns when in water. By the 19th century, two-piece women’s swimwear and bathing suits became common.

In the US, women’s swimwear round as part of the beauty contests began by the 1880s. However people treated it with disdain and disrespect till 1921 when beauty contests themselves took on a hue of respectability. In Australia underwater ballerinas performing synchronized swimming were not allowed to join unless they wear clothes in a respectable manner. Glamour photography from 1940s included women wearing figure-hugging bathing suits and swimwear.

Bikinis initially came on to the scene after World War II and they named after Bikini Toll, the test site for nuclear weapons because people compare them as explosive in water as was the effect of nuclear explosions!! Till the 1950s, the bikini bottom was high up to the belly button and this style was popular back in the 1940s and 1950s. From 1960 bikinis shrank from all directions to reach their modern-day state until 2012, when the high-waist cut in women’s swimwear came back. The key to this design is in its ability to flatter most female figures including plus size and this fact makes every woman happy.

Another women’s swimwear called monokini which was originally a topless swimming costume that exposed a female breast; in modern designs, the garment has large cut-outs at both side front and back. This new design has become popular among young girls.

The tankini is a two-piece swimsuit which includes a tank top or halter top and a bikini or swim shorts bottom. The design started in late 1990s. This type of swimwear is modest and it is an alternative to a one-piece suit with more convenient, as the wearer does not need to remove the entire suit when she uses a toilet. Skirtini is similar to tankini, the only difference is that the two-piece swimsuit consisting of a styled top (halter, tank top) and a short skirt instead of a bikini bottom.

Swim dress is a one-piece women’s swimwear with a flared skirt which gives the suit looks like a short dress, usually, the skirt starting under the empire waist and flared down to the hem. With the new modern designs in late 1990s, swim dresses become popular among women especially plus size women who prefer more coverage.

Article written by: Cindy Wydan

Ashamed of Being Large? Get Over It!

I talked to a friend, a fashion saleswoman in a high priced women’s clothing sore. She told me she once met a woman, size 14 or 16, trying to squeeze into a size 8. I am sure it was painful for the customer and as painful for my friend who had to advise this woman.

Both men and women, specially women, should realize that when God made us, He made us different, both inside and outside. Let us deal with outside.

Some women are born large and grow up to be… well large. There is no problem with that. People who have a problem dealing with size have a problem all of their own–usually it is bias and a misguided sense of what is proper.

Here are some tips regarding shopping if you happen to be a large woman.

1. Shop alone or with a trusted friend. This will save you lot of heartache and get you right selections because your friends will give you correct advice regarding color, size, fall, shimmer, stripes etc.

2. Do not go for franchise type stores. They have off-the-shelf product that is exactly what you do not need. You need someone who can customize your dress, bring high points to its look and suppress obvious faux pas.

3. Do a bit of homework. Read up on contours, shaping lines and visual effect of patterns and textures. Smooth fabrics look much better on a large woman than coarse, textured, rough-hewn fabric like raw silk and corduroy. Similary, “wardroby” types of outfits are drab and often accentuate largeness. Try contrasts and a bit of flash. It creates an optical illusion of sorts so people do not dwell on your size, but on the color and subtlety of the accent on your dress. And that is exactly what you want–creating a sudden fashion statement. So get some tips.

4. No need to pay a premium just because you are large. Shop around.

5. Have a friend stand by the fitting room. Looking at yourself in the mirror is not enough. You need to make sure you know how you appear to the others. So after you have tried something on, come out and let your friend look at you critically. It will help you to decide which pattern and style to go with.

6. If you are a professional woman and want to be comfortable in senior management circles, hire a fashion designer who specializes in executive wardrobes. It always pays to get some experience, specially from a person who designs or advises on a woman’s wardrobe and does this for a living.

Good luck.

Article written by: Shyam A. Sunder

Wear Your Size

As a big woman myself, we have options to buy nice stylish clothes without wearing a muumuu. I hate those things. They are ugly and look like a big tent. Burn them in a bonfire I say. Since I am a plus size woman, I like comfort in my clothes but not so comfortable that things aren’t in place. Too many women of size don’t know how to dress according to their body shape and they either wear their clothes too big or not big enough. I would like to give a few tips on how a plus size woman can cover, hide or flatter problem areas.

The stomach area is the biggest concern because I see a lot of women with large bellies and too little pants or shirts. I see women all the time wear smaller size shirts that don’t fit and their stomach is hanging out of the bottom. If you have a rotund belly your shirt should cover the entire stomach. We are not supposed to see this. If this is happening, your shirt is too small and you are in denial about what size you are actually supposed to wear.

Another problem for women is the waist of your pants is too tight. Some women actually put their belly over top of the waist of their pants. Please don’t squeeze your big belly into a smaller size pant. This will create a muffin top over your pant waist and that is visible through your shirt, blouse, sweater etc. Your pant waist should fit not constrict your waist line. This is another denial technique women use to psyche themselves into thinking they wear a size 10 when they really wear size 12 or 14. Wear your size.

Another big issue is big arms. If your arms are large, you should consider wearing sleeves. Tank tops are for women who have slender arms. If you can raise your arms and they jiggle or meaty and hang, then a sleeveless shirt shouldn’t be worn. The shirt sleeve should fit loosely on the arm enough to where you can move your arms freely without worrying if you’re going to hulk out of them.

Another bad idea for big girls is stretch pants, Lycra or spandex. No woman larger than a size 16 should wear these materials especially if you have cellulite which the ripples and dimples are highly visible. Grab you a pair of body shapers to smooth out your dents; every plus size woman should have one.

Article written by: Natasha Carmon

Why You Shouldn’t Be Ashamed Of Seeking Out Cellulite Treatment

One common reason why women and men who have cellulite refuse to seek treatment is because of the stigma that comes with admitting that they have cellulite. Cellulite, that unsightly form of nonuniform fat commonly spotted on thighs and legs, can be hard to get rid of with just regular diet and exercise techniques. In many cases, cellulite can be so persistent that it can only be removed by professional cellulite treatment methods. Seeking help for visually unappealing cellulite shouldn’t be something to be ashamed of – even if it means admitting to yourself and a doctor that you have it.

While teens may find that ignoring issues like acne may cause it to go away in time, ignoring a beauty problem like cellulite will never make it go away. Actually, cellulite that remains unchecked can actually become worse. In very rare cases, cellulite can become so stubborn and rampant that it can make fitting into pants more difficult. By looking into cellulite treatment from a professional office, you can stop the spread of cellulite in its tracks and reverse the aesthetic damage it has already done.

Of course, there is also the issue of embarrassment when talking about problems like cellulite. Women in particular believe that cellulite is a “fat girl’s issue.” Surprise, surprise – even women who are underweight can get cellulite. Cellulite is actually a genetic issue, which means that there are some cases where it just happens to happen, even if the person in question eats well and exercises regularly. Getting rid of cellulite the natural way often would take a ridiculous amount of effort for those of us who are genetically predisposed to this condition.

Admitting that they have cellulite can be especially brutal for men who have it, since 95% of all people who have cellulite are female. Men shouldn’t feel ashamed of seeking help for this, because it will help restore their self confidence. Doctors aren’t going to poke fun at a man with cellulite, because it’s not a female-only issue. If anything, most doctors will be especially understanding about the way a male patient feels when they ask about cellulite treatment options because it’s so rare that it happens.

The vast majority of women and a decent amount of men will struggle with cellulite at one point in their lives or another. Though it’s easy to let people shame you for actually wanting to do something about your cellulite, it’d make your life a lot easier to look for inexpensive cellulite treatment for you. After all, when summer comes around, you want to make sure that you look great in shorts, don’t you? By just trying one or two cellulite treatment sessions or techniques, you might be able to get your body picture perfect within a matter of months.

Article written by: David Rabia

The Biggest Hair Myths Uncovered

Switching hair care products often? Brushing your hair a million times a day for healthier hair? Maybe it’s time to rethink these hair care trends.

Rinsing your hair with cold water makes it shinier
You must have heard this misguided notion from 2 or 3 hairstylists. Their rationale: cold water makes the cuticles in your hair close so they reflect light better. However, there are no living cells in your hair; as such, your hair does not react to cold or hot water in any way. Instead, for a shiny glow, use conditioner and hair products that contain silicones and oils to make the cuticles smoother.

Frequent trimmings make your hair grow faster
Hairstylists love spreading this gospel. However, Dr. Paradi Mirmirani, MD and professor of Dermatology at the University of California, begs to differ. She says that trimming the edges of your hair has zero impact on your follicles, which determine how much and how fast your hair will grow. In addition to that, hair grows at about a quarter inch in a month regardless of whether you trim it or not. Hairstylist Matt Fugate asserts however, that trimming does make your hair look longer as it gets rid of split ends. And these split ends are what makes the hair look thinner and shorter.

Give your hair a good 100 strokes each day so it can be healthy
You probably thought that frequent brushing will redistribute the natural oils in your scalp and make your hair shinier. Or it will improve the blood circulation to your scalp and boost hair growth. But neither of these is true. Rigorous brushing creates a lot of friction in your hair, which could damage the cuticles and cause breakage. As a result, your hair looks lusterless and frizzy. Instead, brush your hair minimally and use a wide toothed comb or a ball tipped hair brush.

Less shampoo means less oil
Dermatologist Jeffery Benabio asserts that your scalp still produces the same amount of oil despite the number of times that you shampoo your hair. Shampoo has no impact on your sebaceous gland; however, genetics and hormones do.

Grey hair is a product of stress
A study, carried out by researchers from New York University School of Medicine and Baylor College of Medicine that suggest that stress is one of the factors that brings on grey. The study was conducted on mice and human scalp cells.

Article written by: Kathy Drap